Dear jenny:

Welcome back, what a pleasant surprise to read from you again, close to three months since your last post! I am fine, thank you. Following my second Pfizer shot last March, when we last communicated, the only side-effect I experienced was euphoria for a few days. I am thrilled that I got vaccinated and I hope that everyone who did not yet, will get vaccinated soon, (against Covid and all other viral diseases for which vaccines exist).

You shared in your update today that you started singing lessons, that things with your parents are better, not only on the surface, but internally, as you don’t feel “the kind of resentment” that you once did. You shared that you spoke a lot with your therapist, and she told you that you had created perfect, ideal images of your parents in you mind, idealizing their love, and that one way for you can resolve your hurt is to acknowledge that your mother did you wrong when she disrespected you and compared you unfavorably to others, and that “she’s also human, she made a mistake, she’s not perfect and to forgive her and let this go”. Therapy really helped you, you wrote, and seeing your parents as fellow humans with their own faults, instead of putting them on a pedestal, really helped you.

You shared that R contacted you a couple of times through social media but you did not respond and you feel peaceful about it, and that in regard to him, you are “quite healed”, your “obsessive thoughts have almost come to a close”. You realize the following: “doing good for myself in my life is more important than finding answers to questions that have no relevance anymore”, figuring out “the why’s and the how’s of other people’s actions”, “So, I’m focusing on my life”, aiming to have control over your own life and make what you want of it.

I took some time before posting to you today to read our previous communication that started September 2, 2020. This is why I will be submitting this post more than 3 hours after your update. I wanted to refresh my memory so to better appreciate your update, and indeed I better appreciate it: glad to read that you are focusing on your life, aiming to control what is under your control and let go of what is not.

Please do return to your thread any time you want to, or you can start a new thread where you focus on what is under your control- but only if you want to, only if and for as long as it is helpful to you. I am so glad to read from you!

anita