Dear Grace:

Good to read back from you! I am fine, thank you. What a big difference 15 days can make (since your original post). More distance in time and looking back at old messages with more objectivity did wonders for you. Your re-evaluation of the relationship reads objectively true: you were anxious and he pushed you, increasing your anxiety that way;  he was messy and he expected you to either endure the mess, perhaps, or to be  “constantly picking up after him”.

“My perspective I know, not his. He probably sees me as this moany, boring, frigid girl who made him feel suffocated. But I feel like he didn’t have much respect for me”- it’s a good thing then that the relationship ended: disrespect in a relationship turns love into ice.

anita