Dear Felix,

If it’s a holiday picture, say you’re on a beach, it’s okay if it’s without glasses because it gives an appropriate context – e.g. you’re on a beach, sitting in a beach chair, enjoying yourself. I think in that case no one would be surprised to see you without glasses. So you could achieve what you wanted: attract attention (possibly to your better looks without glasses) without bringing yourself into an awkward situation.

But in that case too, even if posting the photo is “legit”, one thing will happen for sure: you’ll be obsessively thinking about people’s reactions, and the internal saboteur will take over. You won’t be able to feel good about yourself, thinking “I am handsome” and be pleased about yourself, but you’ll worry incessantly. That’s why there’s no point in posting if it will cause you endless worry and anxiety. On the contrary, if you could say to yourself “you know, I am handsome and I want to show it to the world” – then no problem, go ahead and post it.

You see what I mean? Post only if you’re confident about yourself, not if your confidence depends on other people’s reactions.