Dear Luna:

You are welcome. I will answer you further when I am more focused tomorrow morning (in about 10 hours from now). For now, I’d say: you had a one year relationship with him during college, only 4 months of living together- that’s not a long time. Then a 3 years of physical separation- it is not surprising that within these 3 years you got to know him more (long-distance) and your feelings changed. I think that it is very important that you don’t put yourself in a situation where you feel that you “have to” be physically intimate with a man you do not like/ a man you are not attracted to. I believe that you should let him know, gently and honestly, that the relationship of years ago has ended some time ago.

anita

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