Dear Felix,

But why do you think she’s provoking jealousy in me? Like i didnt text her anything besides birthday wish and she provokes me like that… I didnt do anything wrong.

I don’t think she’s doing that to provoke you, I doubt it’s a targeted behavior against you. It’s just that her behavior is causing a reaction in you. But it’s not her fault, since she’s not your girlfriend and she hasn’t obliged to be loyal to you, or anything like that. Still, since her behavior disturbs you, it’s better not to be subscribed to her posts.

As for birthday wishes, I don’t know. If her birthday is earlier than yours, you may want to wait and see if she congratulates you, and if she does, you can wish her happy birthday too. But do that only if you don’t have any expectations from her. Also, if she congratulates you, don’t start thinking that she wants to be with you. It may only be that she considers you an old friend, and out of politeness and because it was a custom for many years, she keeps the custom – but nothing more than that.

Tbh i cant understand girls anymore after i saw her change like that… like i used to be with her for 5 years and never expect someone modest to become that coquettish. Also do u think if someone has become coquettish like that, do u think it’ll only become more coquettish through time?

She was only 14 when you met her, practically a child still. She’s grown since, and no wonder she’s changing. Perhaps this seeking attention is only a phase too. I don’t know if she will remain like that, and if that’s her way of boosting her self-esteem, but what’s sure is that she’s still very young and she might change further as she gets older. It’s too early to tell.

What’s certain is that there’s no point in expecting anything from her, and also torturing yourself with what she does or doesn’t post on social media. Instead, focus on yourself, on accomplishing things, exercising etc. This will slowly but surely help you build your self-esteem and make you feel better about yourself, and will reduce your anxiety about her too.