Dear Saje,

The thing is I know I need to get out there to find what I’m looking for; however, the more I do the more apparent the lack of becomes.

Could you elaborate on this? Have you tried dating but haven’t found anyone suitable?

also, my friend said i have been looking from a lack mentality and not abundance. Which is why I feel the way I do. Any thoughts on this?

The mentality of lack would be that you feel less (less valuable, less worthy, less special) without a partner, and that you need someone to make you feel good about yourself. Perhaps Lao Tzu’s quote (“Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realise there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.”) can be interpreted like this:

When you realize there is nothing lacking about you – the whole world belongs to you. And the right person will appear too… How does this sound to you?