Dear Anita,

i am glad that you were doing fine ..hope you are still doing fine in that hot temperature there.

i took some good mental rest 🙂

Thank you so much for that long Post .it really helped me .it helped me to understand my situation and confusions better .i read it more than 5-6 times and each time i tried to digest every single thing that you wrote on that thread for me …thank yoou for time and efforts ..it makes a lot of difference ..

i am still taking some rest and it has almost improved ..my negative thoughts are gone ..the feeling of emptiness just improved .. that was your post , which helped me to see  my current situation differently.

As you wrote :”By the time phase 6 came about,  you forgot that there is a man present in your life who listens to you, cares for you, respects you and wants to marry you. It is as if he disappeared, and other people from your past replaced him, people who did not (and do not) listen to you, care for you, etc”

thats true ..i forgot ..even while sharing this with him, i dint even mention to him that how i appreciate him , for him being there for me as a person and i ignored him ..i really regret it later… and felt very much bad ..he dint say anything he just listen to me carefully whatever i was saying him ..now when i remember this moment i feel respect for him about this …

Dear @TeaK  thank you for your Post ..and how are you ?

i hope you are doing good.

“do you want to marry so soon (by the end of the year), or you were thinking to graduate from the university first?”

i think for me .YES i would go for it if i love the person and if the relationship feels right to me..the  only thing which disturb me is that  my family that  they are going have issues with him (about which me and Anita also talked about in previous Threads)..and i don’t want that someone rejects my choice based on caste or looks .these caste and beauty standards makes me upset and what i know is ,if i talk to them about him ,they might bring my study in between this proposal ,not because they want me to graduate before getting marry but because they won’t think this Guy is (caste – wise)  compatible for me and they  will ask me to complete my education  because they have invested for my studies or the ( what will people say) etc  …if it wasn’t him and it was any other guy of my caste , most probably  they will not stop me during my studies to get marry  him ..so for me it is a stressful situation

Peace

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