Dear Lindsey:

I agree with you that your impulsive act of calling S, “in reality it isn’t that big of a deal”. I think that you having called him makes no difference in your life, or in his. I agree with you that it was a mistake, but I disagree that it was “a very bad mistake”. Something that has no real consequences in real life, cannot be a bad, or a very bad mistake.

In other words, you called, he didn’t respond= nothing changed: he wasn’t responsive to you before you broke up with him, he is not responsive now.

As far as the possibility that he thinks of you as unstable (“kind of giving an impression of being unstable”)- again, what difference does it make what he thinks: what are anyone’s thoughts but an ongoing, inaudible, invisible and constantly changing mind-chatter?

I used to be very impulsive myself, I remember how frustrating it was for me. I am way less impulsive now, and less frequently. Next time you feel impulsive and about to do something impulsive, postpone the act and message me first, will you?

anita