Hi Karma,

The other participants in this thread have already given some wonderful insights into overcoming your current predicament. I do not know how I may add to it but will give it a try nonetheless.

It is clear ‘B’ emotionally abused you for a long time at every given opportunity. He also physically assaulted you on a couple of occasions. Imagine investing more time and energy in that relationship, getting married, having kids, and then facing a similar situation that you are facing now! You would’ve been more devastated than you are right now. By moving away from him, you have just saved yourself from a lifetime of abuse. So consider it as a blessing!

You will need time to heal, to move on from this whole episode. You need to first grieve and then heal at your own pace! You can not hasten it.

Having said this, how can you build yourself a better future? I would suggest you focus on yourself first. Engage in empowering activities like volunteering, acquiring new skills, building new hobbies, etc. Build enough emotional quotient wherein you are less dependent on others to fulfill your social needs. And let go of expectations. I believe that having high expectations from others result in disappointment and pain, sooner or later.

I sincerely hope the above pointers help you! Take care!

Shrv