Dear DeJana:

Your experience living with your boyfriend, “Then I start loading dishes in the dishwasher and there was a box I brought home from work.. so he says I am irresponsible for forgetting stuff. Then he says he is upset I walk without shoes in the house, because the floor in the kitchen is not clean enough.. I like this guys intelligence and wit… I just don’t think we function as a team and living together doesn’t make me happy.” etc.,-

– reads similar to your experience living with your mother, according to what you shared on December 2017: “my mothers parenting method is to not leave the children do anything on their own… Last time I wanted to do the dishes she said I shouldn’t, because they are very dirty and I don’t know how to do them. The fact that I am living alone for five years, have been cleaning houses for four years and deal in my current job with pain and death every day is not enough qualification to do the dishes… And then I feel so guilty and ungrateful, because my mother loves me and is a good person after all“-

– what do you think?

anita