Dear Damien:

“I will have to take my stuff anyway. So many things are there as we were planning to be together. 80 per cent of stuff are mine“- if it is worth it for you to travel to the Ukraine just so to get your stuff back, and/ or it is stuff that you need and cannot replace, then you will be seeing her in the context of retrieving your stuff.

“I believe I have my chance to see her one last time.. . As you said at the beginning of the thread, she needs to see me as a solution and not a problem anymore. If my changes can bring her safety I may have a chance… We had so intense relationship and we shared some many things despite being a distance relationship. I think something can happen if I am the new person she was expecting“-

– I was all for that, but that was before I read her words, boldfaced in my previous two messages. Her words were very powerful to my ears/ my mind.

Since it looks like you will be seeing her so to get your stuff, I think that it’s important that you don’t sleep in her flat, not on a bed with her, and not in the kitchen. It will cost you extra money to rent a room elsewhere, but it will communicate to her that you value her enough to spend that extra money.

I don’t see how in a short time visit (long enough to get your stuff, which I assume will be a day or two), you can show her how you changed and that you are a Solution, not a Problem.

anita