Dear Damien:

“My behavior was bad in the relationship and hurt so much… (I) didn’t realize how you suffered because I was too deep in my problem and extremely egocentric.. I hurt you so much. I sincerely regret and apologize“-

– My concern, Damien, is that you will hurt her again, that you will cause her more suffering. I suggested that you don’t bother her before or during her visit to see her mother, yet it seems like you intend to ignore my suggestion (“Her visit is not for now. Her mother’s birthday is on august 24th”).

My input today: for as long as she feels the way she expressed to you (boldfaced), you must stop pursuing her and leave her alone. Let her go, like she asked you, offer her the relief she needs- that would be the loving thing to do.

I don’t want to give you further suggestions in regard to how best to pursue her because I don’t think that you should pursue her. I have no further suggestions otherwise. This is my last post to you (if you reply to this one, I will not reply to you back). I wish you well.

anita