Dear Teckin:

You are welcome. I think that it is an excellent idea that you give him more time and get to know more about him. He already told you quite a bit when he said “he was never a good kid to his parents”- it means that he was a good kid but- sadly for him- his parents told him or showed him that he was a bad kid.

If he believes that he was a bad kid, he may believe now, as an adult, that he is a bad man… maybe not good enough for a good woman. Lots of men (and women) believe that they not good enough, and a lot of pain is involved in such a belief.

anita