Dear Lindsey:

“He told me he loved me and that was the end of the conversation“- you know how easy it is to say the words, it takes a few seconds and doesn’t burn a single calorie. I am not saying that I know what he was feeling when he said the words, but I do know how much time and effort it takes to utter the words. Therefore, no need to over-react to these words.

“He..  stated.. he would call Monday… He did not call on Monday“- it takes as much time and energy to say I-will-call-you-Monday as it is to say I-love-you, and as you can see his words didn’t result in the more time and energy demanding task of making a phone call.

“There is a lot I want to say.  Mostly things I did not communicate about, issues I had, etc., when we were together“- I don’t think that he is available to listen to anything that you want to say. I do hope his daughter heals and that he is giving her all of this time and effort.

“There is a very short video.. I’m not sure to send it“- better you don’t and better you don’t initiate any communication with him.

“I feel mixed up.  I hope you are not disappointed“- I am not disappointed and I believe that you are a good woman.. so no, not disappointed.

“I’m wondering why I have this anxiety about him not calling.  It’s kind of unhealthy.. I mean we can’t really have a relationship anyway until he gets home in a few weeks“- that’s where your anxiety typically goes when it comes to men to whom you are emotionally attached: will he call/ when will he call/ should  I call him, etc.

What about going to the pool, I remember you enjoyed it in the past, makes you detach from obsessive thinking..?

anita