Dear Jisoo:

A thing to remember is that not all men who want hookups are impatient and impulsive. He is calm, so it seems, and having already been intimate with you once, he may figure: better keep in touch with you, and be nice to you,  so that he can be intimate with you again, some time in the future when he visits your area. He may be .. a nice hook-up-guy, seeing women as sexual objects and yet, being nice to their sexual objects.

He may be a hook-up-guy and a nice guy in that he likes to help people, men and women, with financial, professional and personal advice, so he helped you too.

I don’t know enough about him to be sure of what I just said. What I am saying is that not all men who are looking for hookups (vs. a monogamous love relationship, which is what you are looking for) behave the same way.

anita