Hi Teak and Anita,  yeah trust is most important  for any friendship or relationship. There’s either trust or no trust.. but see sawing between these…bought me much emotional drain. He did put lot of effort to gain my trust in later months but somehow I could never forget that name thing.  We would chat whole day, talk for 1 hour , vc sometimes.  Now it’s only few msgs and we totally ignore each other some days.. but somehow when we talk ..its like going back to home. Regarding his brother, no, he never shares his  pain with me. However he does share about his mom who passed away few years ago. He only shared happy memories of his mom and bro. And why he could not open up with me ..I have no idea. From my end I have a detachment and emotionally unavailable  mentality …. its a different topic altogether.                                                                Anita, we got close after I developed feelings and not the other way round.  And I am not clingy or nothing extra feelings have come to me just because of intimacy.  I may have not provided complete information,  sorry for that. No, he don’t have to manage any image here. He never talked of marriage or a relationship with me ..so there were never false promises or cheating.  The main reason for my fights were always the same. He would text non stop , call multiple times, share pics whole of the week and it suddenly reduces on the weekend. One or 2 msgs , calls very rarely. So this type of hot cold treatment drove me nuts and my mental state was bad…resulting in either crying or shouting.  He works as a business head of a MNC and travels international multiple times , but would keep in touch with me every single day. And Regarding my mood swings , they were mostly because of my loss and some other stuff going in my life. He is always supportive that way. All in all, I know he is not good to my emotional health and slowly detached myself..but not able to cut it down entirely.  And I don’t trust him. Only God can understand his intentions:) I did ask him multiple  times why he wants to gift me, why he wants to be in touch etc…he says we can’t do everything with expectations.  Few things happen  this way too.                  I have own issues and need healing of the heart.