Dear Anita & Teak,

Thank you again for your replies. I have been taking some time to care for my sick father, but at the same time, help my ex partner move to her new flat.

Anita – thank you for your advice and for listening. I have been trying to practice the things that have been kind to my heart and mind, but have struggled to find the time. It has been over a week since my ex moved out, and although the anxiety seems to have lessened, it has been replaced with a somewhat low level depressive feeling. I feel this is normal, as I naturally miss her company and living with another person. I feel this may improve with time. Additionally, with health concerns for my father, disputes with my soon to be ex landlord, and some concern on completing the sale of my new flat before having to leave this house, I do still feel unsettled. PS, I’m glad to hear it’s a much more stable temperature for you now 🙂

Teak – You are right, it has felt more like the big change with my ex moving physically out of the house. Over a week now, but like I mentioned to Anita above, my feelings manifest themselves as more depressive, or lonely right now, which I do feel is normal considering the fact that I have never really lived on my own. I thought that maybe things would appear clearer after my ex moved out, but then there is the major hurdle of me moving to my new place, that I would so much love to be done now. I am constantly waiting on solicitors and estate agents to get things done, and they are giving me no assurances that I won’t be homeless come the end of the month. But I am trying not to stress too much.

I feel like I am talking to you both near the end of a difficult time. I think there was always going to be unsettled and stressed feelings ending this relationship and buying a property at the same time, having you here, to discuss these things with, has been so unbelievably helpful. I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart, endlessly. Your understanding words, and listening ears are comfort for me.

I hope you are both well and life is treating you kindly?

D