Dear Lindsey:

“There is an obsessive component in a lot of my posts that I write to you.  And it’s about  men… This man ‘S’ is not a good man and has not treated me well at all. Why do I get side tracked when I have 2 great kids and a pretty amazing dog.  Why do relationships and dating men who are unhealthy take over my life at different times?  It’s almost like an addiction“-

– The obsession, I am guessing based on my life experience in general and on my communication with you, is probably about trying to change your mother who from one point on, was not a good mother and has not treated you well at all, to a good mother who will treat you well.

The addiction, is about trying to change this man and then the other man, and currently S- from not a good man who has not treated you well at all, to a good man who will treat you well.

Because your obsession and later addiction were established before you had two great kids and an amazing dog, the latter cannot undo the obsession and addiction. What do you think about my theory?

anita