Dear Jisoo:

You shared about your parents: “My parents fight a lot, it was same since my childhood. A lot means a lot .. very toxic. Their only way of communication is arguing/shouting at each other. They don’t understand each other… It was a very disturbing environment for me with their constant fights and this behavior”.

About yourself in regard to the man discussed (and men in general): “I would shout, cry, don’t talk for days etc… all mood swings.. really bad… I feel I am exactly like my mom, can never understand any man/get emotional intimacy”.

I wrote to you two days ago regarding the man discussed: “From the totality of descriptions and comments about this man so far,  I have no picture/ no understanding of him: I understand nothing about his thoughts, feelings and/ or motivations“-

– I guess that I have no understanding of him because you can never understand any man.

I wonder if this means that you fought a lot with your late husband as well, arguing, shouting, etc.. that you didn’t understand him, and were not emotionally intimate with him…(?)

It would be a good thing if you were no longer like your mother, wouldn’t it.

anita