Dear Michelle:

“He was very successful, smart, and finically responsible. He was a good investor and planner… He only seems to have miserable paranoid delusions. I wonder why he can’t have pleasant ones“-

– like I suggested before, it’s possible that the reason he did not prepare a will is because he was too anxious to think at length, or in  detail, about a time when he will no longer be alive. So he kept postponing the task. It could be that he thought something like: if I prepare this will, I will definitely die. An irrational thought, born out of fear. It’s possible that he was financially responsible in regard to financial tasks that did  not involve him confronting his death in detail.

I wish he prepared a will, for your sake, so that life would be easier for you!

You’ve done right by him, having him stay in the hospital with the staff he is familiar with. And now, do right by yourself and make today and every day better for yourself. The most important place that matters and that needs your care- is the distance between your ears: that’s where you experience life. Make  it a peaceful place. There is a saying for the dead: rest in peace. It’s a good idea for the living too: to rest in peace in between one’s ears.

anita