Dear MKnox,

I do not expect them to read the letter and change their behavior. I only want to be able to say the truth of what happened. This is for me! not them!

This is different than what you said in your previous post. In your previous post you said:

if they did the right thing, it would make healing a lot easier for me.

Closure not a thing you can give to yourself. Closure involves both parties being on the same page. Closure is having that full picture of what happened in the relationship and being on the same page together about what happened. Apologies and forgiveness are there and both can move forward knowing how to grow from it. All I can do is give myself understanding and information and learn to heal from this and it will take so much longer and leave more wounds than if they did the right thing.

So in your previous post you said your healing depends on them and their reaction. I said this attitude isn’t helpful and would make it more difficult for you to heal. But if you don’t expect anything from them and only want to put it in writing – I guess a testimony of sorts – which you will hand to your friend, it’s a different story.

I just don’t know if from the legal standpoint sending them a letter (even if it happens via your friend) represents a violation of the restraining order?