Dear Linarra:

Before I go for my walk, and before I read most of your post, it seems so easy for me to understand your comparison between your anxiety and your mother’s anxiety (“I think the main difference is… her anxiety causes her to creates more problems, upsetting my siblings and me), that I had to tell you as soon as possible: what you described, your mother calling the cops on your brother, screaming and making a scene- this is not about her anxiety. It is about her ANGER.

She goes fast from fear/ anxiety= = => to anger.

“she was screaming all over the place and was telling to my sister and me that she would kill us if anything happened to him”– this is no longer anxiety (fear), this is ANGER. In her anger she INTENDS to hurt those she is angry at: her own children. She then hurts you and feels better. She doesn’t apologize because she feels you deserve it all, she gave you what you deserve (pain) and she feels better for it!

See the difference between you and her? She jumps from anxiety to anger, you don’t, so it clearly seems to me.

anita

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