Thanks Anita, I look forward to what you have to say and welcome other’s perspectives. I would like to share another thing I’m holding, which are the feelings being heartbroken by someone who is heartbroken from the beginning when dating. I wish I had known sooner so that I could protective myself … he communicated wanting a relationships, valued deeper connections, and continued to voice this while still dating me. Even said he still wants to be with me only if I don’t make his situation about the heartbreak an issue — which makes me feel like he does not truly want to be with me. or not truly wanting to be vulnerable and emotionally available. Am I wrong for also thinking this?

He often tells me that I derive incorrect conclusions based on a ‘feeling’ — so it makes me doubt myself. However, I can’t help but wonder though at the same time, I wouldn’t feel such shame by making irrational conclusions or voicing how I feel, if he showed he cared for me instead of focusing on what’s right or wrong. It makes me feel like his words do not match his actions.