Dear Elizabeth:

You started your original post with a wise quote by Lori Deschene: “You deserve your own love, acceptance, and compassion“-

Elizabeth deserves love, acceptance and compassion. You felt guilt about not being there for your younger sister enough.. because you are a good person. You are a loving person who wants to love and be loved in return, that’s why Christopher was “a breath of fresh air“. You need to feel a purpose and control of your life, that’s why you got pregnant (“a new purpose since at the time I felt like my life was spiraling out of control“).

Lori Deschene: “You don’t have to fight your feelings…  accept them and be good to yourself while you ride this out”-

Elizabeth, May 31 in a reply to another member: “You need to redevelop a relationship with yourself. Get to know yourself all over again.  Only then can you be of use to anyone else let alone be able to have a healthy relationship… one day at a time.. Don’t try to think way ahead. don’t plan way ahead and stop comparing yourself to others and just do you”-

– Develop a relationship with yourself, one of love, acceptance and compassion for yourself, allowing yourself to feel what you feel and seeing that underneath what you feel there is a good intention, a good desire.. and one day at a time’ find better ways to go about your good intentions and desires, ways that will get you what you need.

I hope to read more from you and reply further.

anita