Dear Tineoidea,

About my childhood and possible traumas. When I remember all those experiences (and I do have a very good and vivid memory), I don’t feel strongly about any of it and it certainly doesn’t shake me. I’m not sure if there’s any underlying trauma there to be honest.

The best way to know if there is trauma is how functional you are in your life, how capable you feel of creating a good life for yourself, how able you are for healthy relationships. Only you know the answers to those questions. What transpired about your relationship with your “best friend” was that it was dysfunctional, because you allowed yourself to be abused. The lack of a healthy impulse to protect oneself and set boundaries could indicate a childhood trauma, for example.

Yes, I’ve got evidence and arguments to prove him wrong, likewise his own reputation is pretty bad so I’m not too worried about people buying into it but sadly there’s always a chance with those things, especially when one’s deepest concerns are targeted.

I do hope that you can prove your innocence, so that your livelihood isn’t endangered. And that you stop participating in projects with him. Because it already happened that he endangered your livelihood with his “reckless behavior” on a common project.