Dear Tineoidea,

I’d like to revisit something you said about this whole situation being unfair:

The strong negative feelings I do feel are deep disappointment and a feeling of “unfairness” (and not necessarily towards me).

To whom is it unfair? Is it towards your family, specially your mother?

Because earlier you said that your family counted on your ex-girlfriend’s help and was blindsided by her plans:

Like I said already, I have never asked about her finances or for any of this, she herself pushed it strongly. I kept refusing this “help” for quite some time until she finally made me cave in with that projected honesty, then me and my family got involved and blindsided by her “plans”.

So perhaps you’re feeling a sense of unfairness because of what her turning against you will do to your family?

• This reply was modified 3 years, 2 months ago by Tee.