Dear Lindsey:

Emotional hurt is more than bruising a leg. About putting yourself in the same position again and again.. and again.. I did too. There is a term for it, the compulsion to repeat, or the repetition compulsion.

Something positive to tell you.. let me think.. Here is a saying: “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does change the future“- and by forgiving I mean: forgive yourself for the again-and-again part, for the compulsion to repeat: no reason for you to feel bad about yourself because the compulsion to repeat is not specific to you, it’s a Human Compulsion.. everyone is compelled to repeat this or that, and often it’s bad or ineffective behaviors that are repeated. Mine currently is procrastination. If you forgive yourself for being human, you are less likely to repeat and .. the future will indeed be different for you!

anita