Dear Quokka:

“I was scared that I was going to lose my family before it even began… any thoughts on how to navigate this? I miss her terribly“- Don’t chase her, don’t beg her, don’t plead with her.  Tell her that you are sorry that things didn’t turn out well, tell her that you miss her terribly, tell her that you are willing to stay away from her if that’s what’s right for her, tell her that you wish her well. And after you tell her all that.. stay away from her. If she then reaches out to you, take it from there. one step at a time.

When a person is conflicted about being with you, don’t try to persuade them,  instead: tell her your truth just as it is. and then- let her go, give up on making any difference in her mind and heart.

anita