Dear Lindsey:

Mediation is not a waste of money when it is the only way to work through anything with your ex.

I do hope the new guy turns out to be a long-term relationship, but please don’t get freaked out when you discover (and you will) that he is too human to be anything close to perfect. I just hope he is decent, like you.

“He has his stuff together“- not all of his stuff is together, I am sure.

“He is not just someone I decide to hang out with because I am lonely and also insecure in general“- good, and keep in mind that he too is lonely and insecure to one extent or another. I don’t want you to think that he has his stuff together and is generally secure, and you don’t. He has his strengths, you have your strengths and if you end up partners, you can use each other’s strength to build a good team (do I sound like a relationship coach, which I am not?), and help each other work through your weaknesses.

Less than two days to the weekend and then you can be at home with your kids and dog and relax!

anita