Dear Mihika Dutta:

“He did tell me yesterday that his mother and brother have told him to not get attached too much to me anymore. It’s not good for me and him“- I didn’t know that his family knows about the relationship. So, they are okay with it for as long as he later marries another woman of their choosing.

They know that their son is attached to you and their advice is that he doesn’t get too-much attached to you. I am assuming that they know, or that they can reasonably assume that you are already too-much attached to their son.

If their advice includes you: that it is not good for you to get too-much attached to him, they are too late: you are already too much attached to him, don’t you think?

“He says that lets enjoy the path and not worry about the final Destination“- being that (1) the expected final destination of the relationship is him exiting the relationship with you and marrying another woman, and that (2) you are very attached to him, too much attached to him, I don’t see how you can avoid worrying about the final destination of the relationship. Do you see a way for you to not worry about the expected ending of the relationship?

I wonder if your parents/ family or friends know about the relationship. If no one knows about the relationship on your side, and the relationship is therefore a secret, it is, and will be more difficult for you to go through all this worry, hurt and sadness all alone.

anita