Dear TeaK,

if you feel your current job isn’t the ultimate fulfillment of your dreams, you can be aware of that and aspire for something else, but you don’t need to rush and quit your job immediately.

I guess I have to think twice before I quit my job. I always have plan after I quit my job, but once I quit it, I’m too lazy to execute the plan. Probably I need to deal with laziness and procrastination too. I have read a lot about how to deal with laziness and procrastination, but it doesn’t work for me after one week.

Perhaps a part-time job would be an option? It doesn’t have to be a dream job, but just something temporary, that helps you pay for the therapist and allows you enough free time to explore your passions and interest

Yeah, that’s sound a good way too. I’m looking for jobs now, hope I could get a chance to get an interview with the companies. Fingers crossed.

Dear Anita, 

these feelings will return. Maybe you already felt badly between the time that you submitted your recent optimistic post and the time you are reading this post.  When new optimism is met with feeling badly again and again, and yet again, most people lose their optimism and give up, concluding that whatever lessons they thought they learned- those lessons don’t really work in real life, or that they are too weak to actualize those lessons.

Oh my god, these feelings did return to me after the New Year! I believe I was disappointed to myself again because I didn’t execute any of my plan. I feel so awful. But I tried to talk to my inner self, telling myself to relax and it’s okay. It takes time to have a big changes. While I was telling myself, my panic attacked happened at the same time again.

Whenever you feel badly about not living up to your father’s expectations and making it possible for him to retire early, remind yourself that this failure is a consequence of his actions as your father.

I’m worried I will blame my dad for every failure, because no one taught him how to be a father in a right way?  I’m not sure about this, Anita,

 

if you feel significantly less than hate and dead, you are not likely to become overwhelmed and react impulsively to the emotional extremes by, for example, quitting jobs

I guess I have watched too many motivation talks, that’s ask people to quit their jobs if they don’t like it. Haha

Dear seven,

Happy New Year! Thank you for your reply.

Could you share with me how did you persevere and not give up? I give up very easily. Maybe I need a faith that never let me give up on.