Dear ginn:

“I’m worried I will blame my dad for every failure, because no one taught him how to be a father in a right way?  I’m not sure about this, Anita” – I am okay with you not blaming your father. What is not okay with me is that you’ve been blaming yourself for things that you are not responsible for.

My concern and your healing should not about your father: about his childhood, about what he was taught and what he was not taught. Your healing needs to be about you: about your childhood, about what you were taught and not taught.

anita