Dear moonlight:

You are very welcome. Thank you for your appreciation and kind words.

You shared today that you used to live in California where the monster still lives. In March 2021, you moved from California to Texas where your sister lives. You told your sister that you moved to Texas to be closer to her, being you considered her family, and you told her why you didn’t want the monster at your wedding. In response, she called you a hypocrite and said that you had no right calling her family because you ended contact with the monster. She also told you what the monster said about you, untrue things that “deeply hurt” you.

Fast forward, Christmas 2021, eleven days ago, your sister texted you, among other things: “Why should I ask you about how your life is when you called me your half-sister and mom a selfish b***h?“.  Today, she sent you a text saying: “Mom wants to visit both of us, would you like for her to come see you and if so when is good?“. You ignored her and she texted again: “Can we talk?”

“I don’t know what to do at this point. I don’t want to talk to my sister, and I don’t want the monster to visit me” – please respect what you want: (1) Do not talk to your sister, (2) Do not allow the monster to visit you.

“I have basically moved on… I am 8 months pregnant, and things are looking up for me I am so excited to meet my baby and have so much to do before the baby arrives” – keep moving on, don’t turn back. Keep looking up and forward, not back and down. Your mother made you kneel down on sharp pebbles by filling your backpack with heavy cans of soup, and when she wasn’t satisfied with how much you were hurting, she had you kneel on steel grating. Please (!!!), do not have that monster visit you, and do not talk to the woman who supports the monster, aka, your sister.

“I’m so worried about getting sucked back into all of this drama which I extricated myself from in the last year. What do I say to my sister? Do I just ignore her, or do I tell her I don’t want to talk to her?” – tell your sister that you are ending all contact with her, that you expect her to no longer contact you in any way shape or form.

Think of her as a genetic sister, not more than that, because she is not your sister otherwise. Block her from your phone and from all forms of communication.

“I don’t want to be hurt anymore by what she has to say, so I don’t want to say anything that could make her hurl vitriol at me” – if you no longer hear or read what she says, there will not be new hurt coming your way. If she tries to contact you, involve the police and file for a restraining order against her. Please reject any and all unnecessary suffering in your life. The monster and your genetic sister are just that, in your life. And please do post again any time you would like my input. I want you and your new family to have the best 2020 possible!

anita