I am resurrecting this topic many months later: I am 7 months pregnant with our first child – we went through a lot of loss in the 2 years that my mother ghosted me: several miscarriages, devastating loss of one of my horses and dogs (all of which she knew about but didn’t reach out even though she lives 200 ft away). She also had some friends/inlaws that passed and I reached out via e-mail, as well as on her birthday, to offer support.

Now she knows about my pregnancy and sent an e-mail offering her help and an antique crib. I am torn in how to respond after 2 year of her ghosting. I have discussed this in therapy but I am still so confused. I am not OK with not telling her how much she hurt me, but I also don’t trust her and am equally not comfortable in being that vulnerable again.  I know that any hint of conflict, she will refuse to see me, OR fake her way through, saying everything is ok and then run to her toxic best friend and retell the story with her own martyrdom twist.

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