Dear Lindsey:

“I said that my feelings were hurt when I read the private messages… (I) thought oh no is this how it’s going to be?  Is this the primary focus?” – you identified how you felt and expressed it to him, good job!

“He replied that he is worried about my feelings, and we will talk on Monday” – good job on his part.

At the taproom I visit, I was horrified the day before yesterday when a 29-year-old woman, a customer, showed me a text a guy sent her, a guy she talked to on only one occasion in December. He sent her… well, she showed me, a **** pic, it’s called. She says it’s a common practice. I don’t know what personal comments “not for the public to read” your new boyfriend sent you, but if a **** pic was not included- that’s a step up from what I just mentioned!

I am imagining the kind of personal comments you are referring to and I wouldn’t like them either if I received them, so tell him so Monday and it shouldn’t be a problem for him to not make those comments anymore!

anita