I think the thing that’s really irritated me (I’m not ‘angry’) is that personally I’d never leave off a spouse or a couple I know if I was sending a card. The fact that he included his partners name, and also suggested that our children meet especially irritated me because I’m their mum and I find that disrespectful. Even the way it was worded I found rude …’maybe you and the children could come and meet **** (the child’s name).

Nothing happened the last time we met, in fact it was at a friend’s wedding and we had a lovely time. Even if it did personally, I still wouldn’t leave someone off a ‘family’ Christmas card, especially if I was suggesting we all meet. It’s extremely petty and rude.

You’re right though, I’m just ‘moving on’ from it. I started thinking of it again because yesterday the guy text my husband pics of his kid and my husband was gushing about it all. And whilst it’s not the child’s fault (he’s very cute and I love kids) I just find it hard pretending to be all fine and normal when actually I do feel disrespected and made to feel that I’m not justified thinking this way by my husband, he’s very quick to brush any feelings I have for anything aside. Which is why I’ve asked for non biased options.

Thanks