Dear Girija:

“I can think I want a non-traditional guy but if I put in words, it will bring the wrong type of guys” – don’t worry about the wrong type of guys, you only need ONE guy of the right type.

“Online dating itself is complicated… This process is not honest” – simplify it, make it simple and honest.

“Most men want to hook up and then marry someone their family finds for them” – I believe you, but again, you are not looking for most guys, you are looking for just ONE guy who will be different!

“I don’t think I will succeed” – not with this attitude!

“I think I’ve been set up to fail because had I known when I was younger, I would have focused more on myself and not my family and the fear that we may end up on the streets” – It is late but not too late to refocus, but first, you will first have to mourn lost time and life and release the anger and frustration about this loss, anger and frustration that is heavy and keeping you at a standstill.

anita