Dear Dandan:

Having read through our previous communication, it looks like what is happening recently is the same-old-same-old pattern, or cycle which you mentioned in your previous thread, under a different account back in early 2021: “When I break up with her… I value her and miss her. But when I start talking to her back, I get the stress and bad feelings… This cycle has been going on“.

Fast forward, February 2022, she moved on and as a result, you currently value and missed her. But f she makes the mistake yet again and allows you back into her life, you will once again get the stress and bad feelings again, and ignore her, just as you have done most recently. Next, she moves on… again, and you value and miss her…  again, and so on, and on and on.

You described the same pattern, or cycle in regard to your work life back in April 2021: “I sent an email accepting the offer. But immediately after I sent the email, I started panicking so badly, that I couldn’t sleep. All negative thoughts of getting lonely etc… Finally, I sent a mail again rejecting the offer… I have this feeling is grass is greener the other side on all the aspects of my life. Every single thing… My mind keeps switching so frequently“-

– this is why I wrote to you earlier today that it is for her benefit that she really does move on. If she allows you back into her life, she is in for the same-old, same-old pattern of heartache. Please don’t chase her, that would be too selfish, Dandan.

anita