Dear Jennifer:

You shared that you met a guy three months ago on an online dating site, November 2021. The two of you spent time together 1-2 times per week, on weekdays, for a few hours each time, either in your place or in his, never going out on dates or meeting each other’s family or friends. You texted each other that you “love each other and miss each other“, but ever talked about the future. At one time he was back on the dating site, at other times he blocked you and denied that he did, then unblocked you, you haven’t seen him for a week. He blocked you recently on Valentine’s Day, a few days ago, then unblocked you a day later.

“I feel he doesn’t care about my feelings” – I agree.  “or doesn’t want to put any effort in our so-called relationship” – I agree.  “I really do not know what to do” – I don’t think that there is anything for you to do other than (1) Have nothing to do with him anymore and (2) Learn from the experience: in the future, see to it that if you are interested in dating a guy, go out on dates with him, talk about the future and meet his friends and family, over time. “Am I being played or am I just a fool for falling for a player“- seems to me that he was interested in just having sex with you, and that he told you that he loved you, so that you will be willing to have sex with him. Also, seems to me that you were quiet about what you wanted and went along with whatever he wanted, not being assertive with him.

Please let me know what you think about this reply, and I would like to post to you again when I am back to the computer in about 11 hours from now.

anita