Anita,

I am sorry for the late reply.  I hope you had a good Valentine’s Day as well.  Things are still going strong with my relationship.  He got me a necklace for Valentine’s/Birthday (it is the 17th) and we went to dinner.

It has been a very eventful week or 2. I organized my daughter’s 10th birthday party at a paint your own pottery place and it went very well.  I dressed them up for Valentine’s Day this past Monday and they looked very cute.  we have had sports events and last Thursday we had a major snow storm- 8-10 inches so the kids were home with me going to school online.

So.  I found out in more detail his divorce situation from 3 years ago.  He was still in love with his wife and is almost positive she cheated on him.  This new revelation made me  worried.  Is this guy ready for what may lie ahead? While we have only been dating 3 months (and maybe that is key for me to realize) this is different from any relationship in the past for me.

Is this a common reason people get divorced? Yes I think so.  Can someone heal in 3 years and move on to a healthy relationship that could be long lasting? I don’t know I’ve never been in that position.  Putting myself in the position? I would not be for a long time-maybe 3 years?  He did state this is long term as he does not do short hookups/casual relationships normally.

I brought this to his attention regarding what happened with his ex wife. Initially he thought my question was more serious but I explained I’m talking about boyfriend/girlfriend-what if he decides this is too much?  He stated that he is is very leary of getting hurt and wants to enjoy what we have now.

Sitting back I don’t think I should ask the question again and be in the moment.  However you know that is hard for me to do.  Also I need to apply this to myself. Am I ready?  Because I’m also not really thinking past how great things are now.  Do I want to introduce him to my kids? It’s a passing thought only. I mean it’s not anytime soon.

It’s causing anxiety again and I would appreciate any advice-if there is any to give.

Lindsey