Dear June:

“But now I started to care a lot about him” – it means that you are more attached to him than before, and more attachment means more anxiety, which is what anxious attachment is about: More Attachment => More Anxiety.

“The slightest differences of behaviors kinda triggers my anxiety” – anxiety is ongoing fear, and the fear is about him withdrawing from you, so your fearful, alarmed mind is looking for evidence that he is withdrawing from you.

“Normally we chat when we don’t meet, something light but flirty even if he’s feeling down or busy… but a few days ago, he started to ignore my messages, but I know he’s online” – how many messages did he ignore a few days ago? Did you send him a 2nd message even though he didn’t answer your 1st, and then a 3rd, etc.?

That was a few days ago, did you meet him since and when you didn’t meet, did he message you, as before the suspected withdrawal?

anita

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