Anita,

You’re right, I am making exaggerated assumptions on what these guys could give me. I guess what I mean by showing me the world, is having that spark of energy to want to experiences new things and opportunities with me and also give me what I deserve especially the little things like affection, compliments and positivity. He’s very intellectual and seems like he could challenge me to become a better person and really give me that love/connection I’ve always wanted, if that makes sense.

What I mean by unconditionality, is that my ex knows everything about me and still chooses to love me. We can be so comfortable together because of the history. He is patient compared to the new guy – I feel like because we are so close in age we could possibly grow together and start a family and eventually buy a house together if he decides to change. But I just don’t have a physical connection with my ex like I do with the new guy. I’m worried that since because of mine and the new guys age gap him being 10 years older, our lives would be on different wavelengths, so my sister says, therefore not working out.

Jess