Dear Anonymous91:

You told him not to contact you, that you need some time and space, suggesting that after some time, you will contact him. He said fine, and then he contacted you. He disrespected your request and assertion. On the other hand, one might think… maybe he missed you so much that he… couldn’t help himself and had to message you.

I just noticed that I didn’t notice something you wrote earlier (the italicized in the quote that follows), he told you that he is “not ready to make a commitment to me that I need, which I didn’t mention anything to him about“.

If/ when you talk to him, ask him what he wants from you (maybe he wants a casual girlfriend, as in nothing serious; or a friend with benefits/ hookup, as in nothing serious or exclusive), and tell him what you want– get a clear picture of what he wants vs what you want and see if there is a fit, or not.

I mean, it’s nice that he missed you yesterday, but if he missed you as a hookup, let’s say, that’s not something positive, not when you want a lifetime partner.

anita