Dear Ada:

“I am an obsessive person I’m always hyper fixated on something whatever type of media or actor it may be, but I haven’t experienced this happening with someone I interact with on a daily basis” – your obsessiveness (possibly OCD) moved from one area (media, actors) to the area of a relationship.

“Nothing feels right“, you wrote in your recent post to me.

The International OCD Foundation (iocdf. org) has a pdf on the matter, titled “‘Just Right’ OCD Symptoms“, it reads: “‘Just right’ obsessions are thoughts and/or feelings that something is not quite right or that something is incomplete. For example, a ‘Just Right’ obsession would be a person feeling that their hands are not quite clean when washing them. An example of a ‘Just Right’ compulsion is a person washing their hands until the sense of ‘incompleteness’ goes away”. Another example: “A person might need to express himself/herself ‘precisely’ in written or spoken words (even in his/her own head) – ‘working through’ wording until it meets their own standards of being ‘just right’” –

– do you relate to any of the above, not necessarily to the example of washing hands, but…  for example, when you recently “check his likes and posts on multiple social media“, do you keep checking until you get a relief from the feeling of “nothing feels right“?

In your earlier posts you wrote that you’ve “been overthinking it a lot“, that you’ve been obsessed with this man for 11 months (“The man I was genuinely obsessed with for all 11 months now… extremely obsessed with him“). After you broke up with him, you found yourself “struck with obsessive thoughts and actions. I can’t stop thinking about what is he doing? Is he even upset? even going so far to check his likes and posts on multiple different social media” – obsessed with him during the 11 months of the relationship, obsessed with him after the breakup, obsessed in general (“I am an obsessive person I’m always hyper fixated on something“), possibly OCD?

In your previous posts you argued with yourself: “But I love him I know I do but I just can’t convince myself of it anymore”, and in your recent post, you shared: “I feel like I’m fighting with myself constantly” – OCD involves a lot of fighting within oneself, no peace of mind, I know it because I suffered from OCD for any years.

Do you think you may suffer from OCD?

anita

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