Anita,

“Please consider letting go of this teenage one love soulmate forevermore romantic idea. Be open to… no longer love him. You will be able to love another man, a better, healthier love.” – I completely agree, but the one main thing on my mind is that for some reason I have this feeling that everyone down the road is going to have the intention to mess around instead of wanting to marry, potentially cheat on me for someone else. My ex and I used to have a very strong trusting relationship and I knew he was never the guy to cheat, he is loyal and dates to marry. I am worried I won’t find a down to earth guy who I can trust.

“Is this what you’re feeling, a mourning of this idea?” – Yes I am. Like I said above, we had a strong trusting relationship and it sucks to see that go down the drain when so many relationships these days focus on what’s new instead of trying to fix their relationship and take care of it. Say I didn’t communicate how I felt toward my ex and just cheated on him with that intention. Though I did end up leaving him for the better me because I was fed up with nothing changing… I just don’t want someone to give up on me like I did with my ex. Maybe I didn’t give up on him to be exact, I gave up on the belief that it could work someday but I cannot change someone who isn’t willing to put in the actual effort…

– Jess