Anita,

Thank you for explaining that I really needed to hear it. I understand now what I did wasn’t “perfect” but that doesn’t mean I did the wrong thing either.

My step dad wasn’t an alcoholic, but my mom would drink some beers weekly and on the weekend. This is when she would feel more comfortable opening up about her feelings towards her relationship. When she would do this, my step dad thought she was “delusional” and just being emotionally drunk, but in reality it was her way of being honest. I don’t know if she ever talked to him about their relationship when sober; you’re right I only know so little about my parents relationships.

I don’t know exactly why they split up and who made “imperfect” decisions that affected the overall relationship. I might have to open up to my mom about it so I can be more clear about my own feelings.

– Jess