Dear Jill:

“I’m grateful to focus on my work and family to keep moving forward… How do I move forward without closure? I wanted to talk face to face to say bye. But sharing my emotions only makes him more paranoid and aggravated… Does anyone…have suggestions on how to accept that my 7 years with this man were a lie?” –

Maybe he suffers from paranoid schizophrenia, maybe from a paranoid personality disorder, maybe from drug-induced psychosis and paranoia, I don’t know. Maybe in addition to any one of these, he is a player, one who enjoys twisted games. My suggestions: keep focusing on your “work and family to keep moving forward“. As far as accepting that your 7 years with him were a lie, I am sure they were not all a lie, just as his life with his wife has not been all a lie. No liar lies all the time, every liar tells the truth once in a while.

But don’t focus on the once-in-a-while, instead, look at the whole picture. The whole picture is messed up, so put that picture in the garbage, so to speak and… move forward.

anita