Dear Anita,

You seem to be really helpful and I would love to hear your opinion. In February I went to a basketball game and my ex was there and he ended up speaking to me. I have not spoken to him for almost two years. That relationship ended bad. After that, my mind went into a spiral about my current relationship. Thoughts like do I love him? It made me feel so wrong and guilty. I cried and cried because I didn’t understand. It made no sense to me at all. me and my current relationship have been together for a year and four months. He is my longest relationship and this relationship means the world to me. I am very comfortable around him. I act my true self around him and we always talk about our problems. This relationship is very different from my past ones. Although, me and my current relationship did go through a rough patch. When I was away at college I had found out he was sexting a fake account. When i first found out i believe i was in shock so i didn’t really feel anything towards him. He picked me up the day after it happened and i can remember him asking me if i was going to say anything. we eventually got back to his house and talked and he balled his eyes out but i didn’t care because i felt like that’s what he deserved. While i was in college i had very bad separation issues from being away from him. I felt homesick being away from him. That was around October. Once the shock wore off I began to really overthink about it. meanwhile I’ve always been an overthinker. I’m now back at home switching to a community college. I have been around my boyfriend a lot more. Fast forward to now I feel like in not feeling those ” in love” feelings and it’s really taking a toll on me i feel so wrong for it but I’m trying to accept that it’s normal two not always feel them. I’ve been like this for two months now. Pretty much crying every day because I don’t understand why I’m not experiencing those feelings even though I know I love my partner and never wanna lose him. I do feel like a part of me is blocked off. I’m not sure if I fell out of the honeymoon phase or if I’ve just been through so much that I had a break.