Dear miyoid:

If I knew that you were distressed (regarding calling your boyfriend by your ex’s name, and about the holiday/ your sad relationship with your sister), I would have answered you sooner. Just in case my words could be of any help.

I need to be more focused to answer you more thoroughly, but for now: I wish that you can bring yourself somehow to not have any more contact with your sister. You can’t get the love you needed for so long from the same people who didn’t give it to you: your parents, and your sister, your family of origin. Love is elsewhere, and it seems that this elsewhere is your current boyfriend. You said it yourself: “he is someone I can now count on, feel good with“.

Calling a boyfriend by another man’s name (or calling a girlfriend by another woman’s name) is common. It’s awkward and unpleasant but it is not disastrous, it’s not a big deal really… most often, it doesn’t mean anything. It’s just a glitch. Definition of glitch: “a sudden, usually temporary malfunction or irregularity of equipment”, the equipment in this case, being your brain under the influence of playing a game.

anita