Dear Ed:

You are welcome.

“I remember a conversation I had with her, she asked me if I needed her and I said that there are moments in which I do, but I would never want to need her because that would be unfair and cruel to her” – this is making me think that one of your parents perhaps needed you too much and it made you feel very badly (?)

“I really miss her and the good times we had..  It really hurts that she hated me… I just miss her and what we used to be so much. I still feel like I did everything wrong, like if I had been kinder or stronger or if I had less mental health issues I would have been a better partner” –

– I thought these things myself in regard to my mother: I really miss her! It really hurts when she hates me! I did everything wrong! If I was kinder or stronger, if there was nothing wrong with me, I would have been a good daughter!

“I am trying to find a therapist” – if you would like, you can let me know about your search, maybe I can help you choose a therapist whose best for you.

anita